Comments on: LUNG CANCER 1

By: Diane

Diane — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 14:16:01 +0000

HUGE hugs to you for what your watching your mom go through. Times like this can really try you emotionally in everyway and drain you…
I hope you have the love and support YOU need too as you cope with this. Be good to yourself! Diane

By: Sanlin

Sanlin — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 06:50:32 +0000

Okay, I’m back. {{{Johnny}}} Pardon the interruption… This happened to be the night my family was cooking a big Birthday dinner for my bro, Daniel. My folks brought me up-Isle to visit him as part of a surprise for his Birthday. We had to postpone his Birthday dinner from the 19th because of all the storms and flooding we’ve had on the Isle. (Talking about life never stopping no matter what’s going on… Oy!) Think of everything you’ve accomplished in the past thirteen years, Johnny. You know the reasons you changed to a healthier, better, life-seeking path at that time–and you know the people you have in your life (and, most of all, for *yourself*) that make those changes worth staying on that path. {{{JC}}} I realize the inner battle and constant vigilance is something that never goes away… …and that it’s even harder at times when life is exceptionally chaotic, stressful and anxious… but I’m equally certain you have the strength, knowledge, experience and ability to do everything you need to do (including calling on any support or resources you may require) to stay clean and sober. {{{Johnny}}} And if part of that is writing a book that’s so bitter it’ll make your lawyer’s face look like he’s been sucking on a bowl full of lemons ^^, so be it. {{{Johnny}}} Writing, art and music are all excellent release valves when life throws intensely chaotic and disruptive events at a person. I’ve spent a looooot of time in hospitals… and I’ve spent time with people when they were critically ill or at the final stage of their life… and I know how utterly exhausting, draining, uncertain, frightening, agonizing, intense, numbing and wrenching that roller coaster is as the situation changes from hour-to-hour or else the hands on the clock crawl until an hour stretches into months. {{{JC}}} That’s when the outside world wants a person to fill out rafts of paper work and “get over” things or “move on.” But, brother, it takes however long it takes–and everyone grieves and deals with incredibly stressful situations in their own way, at their own speed. There’s no time table and no set way to go through events like this. But, there are some things that definitely *wouldn’t* help–and you know what those are… {{{JC}}} Please be gentle and good with yourself, eat nutritious food, get rest when you can (I know it’s hard with chronic insomnia) and let your friends and family be there for you, too. {{{JC}}} You *will* get through this, but you don’t have to be a sunbeam while you do it. Swear, cry, write, go a dozen rounds with your punching bag… whatever it takes. And know that you don’t have to go through this all by yourself–feel the love, energy, strength, support and prayers from all your friends, family and dear ones. {{{Johnny}}} Thank you for letting us know what you’ve been going through… I’ve felt like pulling out my feathers knowing you were going through *something* serious but not knowing the exact details… and if there is anything, at all, that I can do for you, brother, please let me know. {{{Johnny}}} You and your family have my love, support, prayers, energy and understanding, always. You’re the brother of my spirit, you’re family, and when you hurt, I hurt with and for you, too. {{{Johnny}}} xoxoxo

By: Sanlin

Sanlin — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 00:39:21 +0000

{{{{{{Johnny}}}}}} First of all… massive warm feathery hugs, love, prayers, healing energy and positive thoughts for you and your family. {{{Everyone}}} I knew you were going through something serious and heavy from your recent writings. I guessed that it might involve one of your parents–and I figured that you’d write or talk about it when you were ready to do so. {{{Johnny and family}}} I’ve told you a lot of my family history. I’ve had to see both my folks go through open-heart surgery. I’ve gone through seeing people close to me fight through serious addictions. Sometimes, it’s minute-by-minute to get through the worst events. {{{Johnny}}} Feel what you feel and do what you do to get through it, brother… and don’t let anyone tell you *how* you’re supposed to feel or when and how you’re supposed to go through everything that attends events like this. {{{Johnny}}} Life simply does not *stop* when things like this happen, it keeps piling things on. But, it’s more important than ever to take the time you need and be gentle with yourself as you’re going through them. {{{Johnny}}} And, hey, your lawyer should see some of the things *I* write! ^^ That’s *why* I write them–to get them out on paper instead of carrying them around. Owls can’t have extra baggage… we need to be light to keep the whole flight dynamic thing working. Love you so much, bro. {{{Johnny}}} I’ll write more when I can… just in the middle of a family thing, here, at my folks’ place, and I’m being called for… xoxoxoxo

By: Kim

Kim — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 22:00:37 +0000

{{Hugs}} to help you get through this very difficult time. One day at a time got you to 13 years. You don’t always have to be the “up” person. Let them see the many facets of YOU! It’s what make you YOU!